Grief ministry: Share in Your Sorrow Part 3, Final Part.

It’s better to take all our emotions to God than others, for He fully understands us.  
The Bible says, "Rend your heart to God, not your garments." To "rend" means to rip open. The Israelites, when morning, used to rip open their robes and put ashes on themselves. But, this verse is telling us to do something else.  This verse means, to open up all of our hearts, all of our emotions to God. He wants all of who we are. 
The Psalms of Lament, a third of the Psalms, show us that we can be angry at God. YOU can be mad at God. God made you who you are and gives you the emotions you have. He wants us to give fully of ourselves to Him. As a spiritual exercise. Sneak into the chapel, reverently take off your shoes, and let God have all your emotions. OUT LOUD! …...YELL, if you must, at GOD in the tabernacle.  
 
Doubt is not opposed to faith; despair is. We see this in the case of the father who brought his son to Jesus for healing. When Jesus encouraged the father to have faith, he replied, “I do believe, help my unbelief!” (Mark 9:24). Pray for an increase in Faith and Hope in Jesus! 
Even Saint Paul tells us he was “perplexed, but not driven to despair” (2 Corinthians 4:8). In despair we give up on our relationship with God. Pray for an increase in Faith and Hope. 
 
John 9: 1-3 “Who sinned this man or his parent.” Jesus replied, “Neither.” It’s not your fault.  How our sinfulness has an effect on our children is through the passing on of Original Sin, not on the loss of a child. 
I repeat, "IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT."

 
Resources 
Diocese of Baton Rouge: www.mfldiobr.org/miscarriageearly-infant-death 
www.catholicmiscarriagesupport.com 
aleteia.org/2018/08/20/3-women-saints-who-know-the-pain-of-miscarriage 


Prayers 
I beseech you, O Lord Jesus Christ, that the Blessed Virgin Mary, whose most holy soul was pierced in the hour of your Passion by the sword of sorrow, may intercede for us with Your mercy now and at the hour of our death.  
Amen 
O most holy Virgin, Mother of our Lord Jesus Christ, 
by the overwhelming grief you experienced 
when you witnessed the martyrdom, 
the crucifixion, and the death of your divine Son, 
look upon me with eyes of compassion, 
and awaken in my heart a tender. Amen 
 
Pieta Prayer: (Would be good to pray in front of our Pieta with your spouse.) 
Mother of Sorrows, You who held Jesus in your Arms, Please intercede with your Divine Son in our behalf. Ask Him to help us to know, one another better, To forgive one another more readily, To love one another more deeply, Mother of all mankind inspire us to travel without falter along the road at the end of which, Under the Fatherhood of God, there is true peace. Amen